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Where connection becomes possibility.
Here, you’ll find articles that invite you to think differently about relationships, how they shape your confidence, your opportunities, and your sense of belonging. Whether you’re building new connections or strengthening existing ones, you’ll find practical insight and reflection to help you show up more fully. Join me and start growing your social wealth one relationship at a time.
Everyone Wants Friends. Nobody Wants to Go First.
Everyone says people feel closed off these days but what if that’s only half the story? After seeing the same complaint surface again and again, I started wondering what’s actually missing between “friendly” and “connected.” This is a small thought experiment about consistency, vulnerability, and why belonging usually starts with someone willing to go first.
Your Personality Isn’t Fixed. Here’s How to Get Better at People
Personality tests can be fun, but what if the traits they assign you aren’t set in stone? I discovered that in just six years, my own profile shifted from ISFJ to ESFJ, proving that introversion and extraversion exist on a spectrum. If social confidence feels out of reach, it might not be about your personality at all. It might be about practice. Here’s why labeling yourself could be holding you back and how to start changing for the better.
Why Life Feels Harder Than It Should
Even when life seems to be going well, there’s a weight that many feel. I realized this after leading my first Overcoming Underconnecting workshop: what if the frustration and flatness so many of us feel isn’t about failing, but about missing connections to ourselves, our purpose, or our community?
Putting Down the Mantle
Sometimes growth doesn’t show up as progress you can point to. Sometimes it looks like putting something down. This is a reflection on stepping away from a role that once fit—and listening more closely to what I need now.
What Became Possible Because You Showed Up
Showing up doesn’t usually look dramatic. It looks like staying a few minutes longer, saying yes before you feel ready, or choosing curiosity over retreat. Over time, those moments don’t just change what you do. They change what you believe is possible for you. This piece is a reflection on how quiet participation reshapes a year and the way we move forward from it.
Making Social Connection Stick
Most of us fall into the pattern of waiting for someone to invite us or until we feel confident. But momentum doesn’t happen by chance. It comes from consistent, intentional action. In this final week of the series, learn how to make connection a habit and let small actions compound into meaningful relationships.
No More Wallflower Moments
Most of us have spent years learning how to watch, silently measuring whether we belong. Observation feels safe but it also keeps us on the sidelines. Engagement asks us to step into discomfort, to be present without needing to perform. Curiosity plus action creates space for real connection. Small moments, making eye contact, asking a question, offering a smile, build confidence naturally. The shift from observer to participant is subtle, but over time, it changes everything.
Curiosity: Your Shortcut from Hesitation to Connection
Most of us want more human connection but our brains can make it feel too risky to step in. Curiosity gives you a way to leave your head, approach social situations with interest instead of expectation, and discover that connection doesn’t start with confidence. It starts with noticing who’s in front of you.
Getting Out of Your Head and Into the Room
You want connection. You want to go. But something keeps you waiting in the wings, running scenarios, rehearsing conversations, and talking yourself out of it at the last minute.
This piece is about that version of you and the small shift that turns overthinking into showing up.
It’s Not the Relationship You Want. It’s the Feeling It Gives You
We think we want relationships, but what we’re really chasing are the feelings they bring: belonging, support, influence, security, and connection. Just like money, it’s never about the thing itself, but what it makes possible. And before we can build the relationships that create those feelings, there’s one foundational skill we need: social confidence.
The Quiet Power of Being Known
Belonging starts with a simple act: being seen. From a barista greeting you by name to a neighbor waving as you walk by, these small moments of recognition remind us that we matter. When we consistently show up and notice others, we open the door to connection, trust, and opportunities we might never have imagined.
The Hidden Wealth of Connection
We talk a lot about building careers, growing businesses, and finding opportunities. But what actually moves life forward is connection. Not just knowing people, but being known. A decade ago, I learned the hard way that involvement isn’t the same as influence. I was showing up everywhere, but I was underconnected. When I began showing up to connect instead of just to be present, everything changed. This is the hidden wealth of connection: the kind that multiplies when shared and makes life feel like it belongs to you again.
How to Feel Less Lonely and Strengthen Your Social Health
How connected do you feel right now, really?
We’re taught to believe that connection should come naturally, but for most adults, it’s something we were never actually taught how to build. Loneliness isn’t a flaw or a lack of effort. It’s feedback from your body reminding you that connection is part of being human.
In this post, we’ll look at why social health matters and how small, intentional habits can help you feel more supported, one act of showing up at a time.
The Missing Pillar: Why Social Health Deserves More Attention
Most of us think of wellness as physical or mental, but rarely as social.
Connection isn’t just emotional, it’s biological. Our brains crave belonging the same way they crave food or water.
The Missing Pillar explores why social health is as vital as sleep or nutrition and how small, consistent acts of showing up can transform your wellbeing.
Show Up Consistently: How Small, Intentional Habits Build Real Social Wealth
Social wealth isn’t built overnight. It grows through small, intentional actions that compound over time. When you show up consistently, you create trust, belonging, and connection that last. This post explores how consistency, awareness, and responsibility transform ordinary relationships into lasting social wealth.
Show Up for Opportunities: Turning Connection Into Momentum
Opportunities don’t just appear, you learn to see them. This week’s piece explores how awareness, confidence, and follow-through turn everyday connections into momentum and help you build the social capital that moves your life and work forward.