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Where connection becomes possibility.
Here, you’ll find articles that invite you to think differently about relationships, how they shape your confidence, your opportunities, and your sense of belonging. Whether you’re building new connections or strengthening existing ones, you’ll find practical insight and reflection to help you show up more fully. Join me and start growing your social wealth one relationship at a time.
Curiosity: Your Shortcut from Hesitation to Connection
Most of us want more human connection but our brains can make it feel too risky to step in. Curiosity gives you a way to leave your head, approach social situations with interest instead of expectation, and discover that connection doesn’t start with confidence. It starts with noticing who’s in front of you.
Getting Out of Your Head and Into the Room
You want connection. You want to go. But something keeps you waiting in the wings, running scenarios, rehearsing conversations, and talking yourself out of it at the last minute.
This piece is about that version of you and the small shift that turns overthinking into showing up.
It’s Not the Relationship You Want. It’s the Feeling It Gives You
We think we want relationships, but what we’re really chasing are the feelings they bring: belonging, support, influence, security, and connection. Just like money, it’s never about the thing itself, but what it makes possible. And before we can build the relationships that create those feelings, there’s one foundational skill we need: social confidence.
The Quiet Power of Being Known
Belonging starts with a simple act: being seen. From a barista greeting you by name to a neighbor waving as you walk by, these small moments of recognition remind us that we matter. When we consistently show up and notice others, we open the door to connection, trust, and opportunities we might never have imagined.
The Hidden Wealth of Connection
We talk a lot about building careers, growing businesses, and finding opportunities. But what actually moves life forward is connection. Not just knowing people, but being known. A decade ago, I learned the hard way that involvement isn’t the same as influence. I was showing up everywhere, but I was underconnected. When I began showing up to connect instead of just to be present, everything changed. This is the hidden wealth of connection: the kind that multiplies when shared and makes life feel like it belongs to you again.
How to Feel Less Lonely and Strengthen Your Social Health
How connected do you feel right now, really?
We’re taught to believe that connection should come naturally, but for most adults, it’s something we were never actually taught how to build. Loneliness isn’t a flaw or a lack of effort. It’s feedback from your body reminding you that connection is part of being human.
In this post, we’ll look at why social health matters and how small, intentional habits can help you feel more supported, one act of showing up at a time.
The Missing Pillar: Why Social Health Deserves More Attention
Most of us think of wellness as physical or mental, but rarely as social.
Connection isn’t just emotional, it’s biological. Our brains crave belonging the same way they crave food or water.
The Missing Pillar explores why social health is as vital as sleep or nutrition and how small, consistent acts of showing up can transform your wellbeing.
Show Up Consistently: How Small, Intentional Habits Build Real Social Wealth
Social wealth isn’t built overnight. It grows through small, intentional actions that compound over time. When you show up consistently, you create trust, belonging, and connection that last. This post explores how consistency, awareness, and responsibility transform ordinary relationships into lasting social wealth.
Show Up for Opportunities: Turning Connection Into Momentum
Opportunities don’t just appear, you learn to see them. This week’s piece explores how awareness, confidence, and follow-through turn everyday connections into momentum and help you build the social capital that moves your life and work forward.
Show Up for Others: Strengthening Your Social Fitness
Last week, we explored showing up for yourself, the foundation for stronger, more intentional relationships. This week, we move into step two: showing up for others. Think of it as social fitness: the habits and routines that strengthen your ability to connect, contribute, and nurture relationships.
Halfway to 90: Lessons on Building Meaningful Relationships at Any Age
Last week I turned 45 and celebrated with a “halfway to 90” party. As I reflected afterward, it became clear that every laugh, conversation, and introduction was the result of intentional effort: the relationships I’ve nurtured, ideas I’ve acted on, and opportunities I’ve created. Over the past year, I’ve learned that meaningful relationships don’t happen by accident. They are built through consistent effort, intentional outreach, and showing up, even when it feels uncomfortable. Each step adds up, creating a supportive network of people and experiences, what I call social wealth. Social wealth is the proof of your effort, helping you take action, create opportunities, and feel supported every day.
Show Up for Yourself: The First Step to Stronger Relationships
Showing up in relationships starts with you. Explore the first pillar of the Show Up Framework: self-awareness, clarity, and confidence, and take your first step today.
The Show Up Framework: How to Move from Deciding to Doing
Deciding is powerful, but by itself it doesn’t move the needle. A decision without follow-through is just a thought. The real shift begins with showing up. That’s why I’ve created an entire framework around one simple idea: Show Up. It’s not just the first step, it’s the whole process of building meaningful, supportive relationships.
Nothing Changes Until You Decide
Every day, you have choices. Most feel routine. Some barely register. The ones that truly shape your life are hard, uncomfortable, and demanding. They require courage, attention, and a decision. Growth only happens when you choose to show up.
Tacit and Informal Knowledge
Most of what shapes our opportunities isn’t written down anywhere, it lives in our relationships. Social capital and tacit knowledge reveal the hidden value in everyday connections.
Remembering How to Talk With Each Other
We haven’t lost the ability to talk with each other. We’ve just stopped reaching for it. Here’s why that matters more than ever, and how to start rebuilding the kind of everyday connection that grows real social capital.