The Show Up Framework: How to Move from Deciding to Doing
Last week, I wrote about deciding. The pivotal moment when you say, “Something needs to change.” Deciding is powerful, but by itself it doesn’t move the needle. A decision without follow-through is just a thought. The real shift begins with showing up.
Showing up means putting action into your words. It’s honoring your commitments, staying true to what you say you want, and doing the work to move toward something different. If deciding is a mental action, showing up is its physical manifestation. It’s the visible proof that you’re serious about the life and relationships you say you want.
That’s why I have created an entire framework around one simple but powerful idea: Show Up. It’s not just the first step, it’s the whole process of building meaningful, supportive relationships.
The Show Up Framework has four layers:
Show up for yourself. Connection starts inside. Before you can engage with others, you need clarity about your own values, mindset, and intentions.
Show up for others. When you know yourself, you can invest in the people around you with authenticity: listening, caring, and building trust.
Show up for opportunities. Relationships grow when you’re open to new spaces, invitations, and possibilities that move you closer to your goals.
Show up consistently. Trust deepens through reliability. Connection isn’t built in one moment; it’s the steady rhythm of showing up again and again.
Every part of this framework matters, but the heartbeat of it all is the same: when you show up, things start to shift.
Think about it: how many times have you decided you wanted something, to exercise more, to reach out to a friend, to try something new, and then stalled out before you ever took the first step? That gap between deciding and showing up is where momentum dies. The moment you actually show up, everything changes.
The same is true in relationships. People often say they want more friends, but don’t step into spaces where those friendships can form. They say they feel lonely, but don’t take the risk of reaching out. Showing up doesn’t have to be complicated. It can be as simple as joining one new activity, sending a message to someone you care about, or sharing something vulnerable instead of hiding it. Sometimes it’s as small as following the nudge to send that text when someone crosses your mind.
So why don’t more of us show up? Fear is one reason: fear of rejection, of not being enough, of what people might think. Perfectionism is another; we wait until the “right” time, until we feel completely ready, and of course, that moment never comes. Overwhelm also plays a part. We convince ourselves we don’t have the time or energy, forgetting that showing up can be small, intentional, and doable.
It is in these moments where intention matters. Working within the Show Up Framework, you shift your relationships from something accidental to something intentional. Instead of scattering energy on people or patterns that don’t support you, you start choosing connections that align with who you are and where you’re going. You stop waiting for the “right” moment, and start building trust, with yourself and with others, through action.
Showing up is never just about attendance. It’s about alignment. It’s about deciding what matters and then moving toward it in a way that others can see and trust. It’s the bridge between your desire for change and the reality of a different life.
So I’ll leave you with this: Where in your life have you made a decision, but not yet shown up? And what’s one small way you could follow through this week?
Because nothing changes until you decide but everything changes when you show up.
This post is the first in a series on my Show Up Framework, a process designed to help you build stronger, more intentional relationships. Over the coming weeks, I’ll be walking through each layer in more depth: showing up for yourself, for others, for opportunities, and consistently. Stay tuned, this is just the beginning.
Let’s Keep Building Together
If this post resonated with you, imagine what could happen when you decide to show up for yourself, for others, and for the opportunities waiting for you. Every action you take strengthens your relationships, opens new doors, and creates momentum in your life.
Ready to start showing up in a way that truly transforms your connections?
Whether you want to deepen personal relationships or expand your professional network, my coaching helps you turn intention into action. You’ll gain the clarity, confidence, and skills to show up consistently, connect authentically, and build the relationship wealth that supports your goals.
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Deciding is the start. Showing up is the work. Let’s turn intention into progress — together.
