I came across a quote this week from James Clear:

“Relationships are usually the most important thing. If you want to achieve more, there is some relationship that can unlock better results. If you want to make a meaningful contribution, helping others is a great way to do it. If you simply want to be a little happier, life is often more fun when shared with someone. Whatever you're trying to accomplish, relationships are probably the key to getting there.”

At first, it sounds so obvious, we dismiss it. We overlook the power of relationships in our lives, and I think that’s partly because, culturally, we don’t know how to lean into others to broaden our worlds. In this moment, connection feels like something missing, a gap that we haven’t quite figured out how to fill.

Relationships aren’t just a nice-to-have on the way to achievement. They are the gateway to the things you want. Not because they’re the only path, but because they’re the shortcut. People make whatever process you’re working through easier. They add momentum, energy, and maybe a little fun.

Yet, even knowing this, most of us resist. We default to going it alone. Why? Because of fear. We fear we will look stupid or appear wea. We are afraid of making ourselves vulnerable. There’s the nagging voice that tells us we don’t deserve the help, that we need to earn our way on our own merit. We convince ourselves that struggle equals legitimacy.

What if that’s backward?

What if connection isn’t a shortcut around the hard work but an essential part of it? What if leaning into relationships actually opens your mind to possibilities you hadn’t even considered? The moments when a conversation clicks, a problem shifts, or a new idea blooms, those moments don’t happen in isolation. Connection is practical. It’s real-time mental and emotional unlocking. It’s the difference between spinning your wheels and moving forward.

What would it look like to start leaning in? To take a small step toward connection that doesn’t feel like a leap off a cliff?

One place to start is by intentionally creating value for others. When you reach out, don’t just ask for help or advice, offer something. Share an idea, lend an ear, or give a thoughtful compliment. Building connection isn’t about a transaction or tallying favors; it’s about mutual exchange. By offering value first, you ease the fear of not earning your place. You show up as someone who brings something to the table.

This week, I invite you to try this: Think of one person in your life or network you could reach out to, not because you need something urgent, but simply to add value in some small way. Maybe it’s a quick note to say, “I saw this and thought of you,” or an honest question that invites their perspective. See what opens from that.

It won’t always be easy. Vulnerability never is. But we’re not meant to figure it all out alone. And sometimes the next right step isn’t a new plan or a longer to-do list; it’s a relationship.

Maybe the key to what you’re working toward isn’t found in pushing harder, but in opening a door.