Owning Your Emotional Energy

One of the things I care most about in my work as a life coach is not just guiding others through transformation—but actively doing the work myself. I’m always trying to grow, reflect, and learn, because I know the more I stretch and evolve, the better I can support others in doing the same.

Lately, I’ve been thinking about sharing more of what I’m learning in real time. Today I wanted to write about a recent “aha” moment that caught me off guard in the best way.

It happened early one morning, around 5 a.m.—one of those times when your brain is awake before you fully are. I remember lying there and thinking, I have had so much more energy lately. I hadn’t been crashing hard at night, I wasn’t waking up groggy, and for once, getting out of bed didn’t feel like a battle.

That moment of clarity helped me see why.

I’ve been doing a lot of work lately around emotional energy—specifically, learning how to preserve my own. And it’s paying off.

I have been practicing not taking on what doesn’t belong to me. Not absorbing other people’s feelings. Not carrying their stress like it’s mine to hold. I’m learning where my emotional space ends and someone else’s begins. I’m getting better at noticing that line and honoring it.

That might sound simple, but it’s not always easy—especially if you're someone who naturally holds space for others. But I realized this: emotional boundaries don’t mean caring less. They mean caring in a way that doesn’t cost you everything.

And when I protect my emotional energy, I have more physical energy. I sleep better. I wake up clearer. I move through the day lighter.

I’m not doing it perfectly (are we ever?). But this small shift is one I’m proud of, and one I wanted to share. Because maybe you’ve been tired lately, and maybe it’s not just about sleep. Maybe it’s about what you’re carrying.

And maybe the most powerful thing you can do today is ask yourself: What energy is mine to hold—and what’s not?